Looks like they now have a name for something that has been going on for a while. Doesn’t matter, if this sounds like it could be happening to you, remove yourself. You will be much better off.
- What is cushioning?
Cushioning is when a guy’s in a relationship with someone but keeps someone else in wings who he flirts with, chats up, stays on good terms with, just in case his current relationship ends.
- It can be used to lead you on
The guy keeps his options open while making you think the relationship is moving forward. But if things start to go downhill he can easily jump into another relationship.
- What if things don’t go downhill?
If things don’t go south he sticks around. Good right? No, because he still keeps his side flirts. You know, just in case.
- Ghosting might be a by-product of cushioning
It’s easier for him to just walk away when he feels he no longer wants to be in the relationship. Because he’s already cultivated another relationship while he was with you.
- He’s probably a commitment phobe